BFF’s – Wedding Attendants Responsibilities

Wedding Attendants Responsibilities - If they think they can just turn up looking good, they can think again. There's work to be done to put all your wedding plans into place.

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Here's a list of what each of your wedding party attendants and there responsibilities

 

Mother of the Bride

Hen party

  • Have fun at the hen party, if you’re up for it.

Pre wedding day

  • Be the voice of wisdom, calming influence and help the Bride with ALL aspects of the wedding arrangements.

Pre wedding ceremony

  • On the big day, use non running mascara.
  • Ensure you have available throughout the day a wedding emergency kit.
  • Along with the chief bridesmaid, help the Bride dress and be fully prepared on the wedding day. This task will effectively be the mothers last ever task of responsibility for her daughter.

Ceremony

  • Escorted to your seat by an usher (your son if he is one of the ushers). PROCESSION / RECESSIONAL LINK

After the ceremony

  • Take part in the photography session.
  • Arrange for the Bride’s packed suitcase, passport, medication and anything else required for the honeymoon to be taken to the bridal suite.

Reception

  • Celebrate the night away in the knowledge your daughter is entering the next happy chapter of her life.

After the reception

  • Arrange the dry-cleaning and preservation of the wedding dress.

 

Father of the Bride

Stag party

  • Have fun at the stag party, if you’re up to it.

Pre wedding day

  • Get suited n booted with the Groom, and other male attendants.

Pre wedding ceremony

  • Escort the Bride to the ceremony.

Ceremony

  • Walk the Bride down the aisle linking your right arm with the Brides left arm.
  • Give the Bride away.
  • Claim there’s something in your eye causing them to water.
  • Walk into the vestry to witness the signing of the register.

After the ceremony

  • Take part in the photography session.

Reception

  • Give a ‘Father of the Bride’ speech at the reception – traditionally the first speech.

 

Chief Bridesmaid

Hen Night

  • Help to organise the hen night / weekend

Pre Wedding Day

  • Help the Bride choose her wedding dress
  • Help the Bride choose the bridesmaids clothing and accessories

Pre Wedding Ceremony

  • Keep sober on the wedding day, a lot depends on you.
  • Have a Fully charged mobile phone to keep track of all events via the wedding day to-do feature of our wedding planner.
  • Along with the Mother of the Bride, help the Bride dress and be fully prepared for her special day.
  • With the aid of the wedding day to-do feature of our wedding planner, you keep the Bride informed of all tasks going to plan, or of any issues that she needs to be aware of ONLY IF neither you or the best man are unable to deal with the problems.
  • Help any younger bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers and page boys dress and be prepared for the occasion.
  • Ensure a large umbrella is available to shelter the Bride from sudden rainfalls throughout the day.
  • Accompany the Mother of the Bride, bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers and page boys to the ceremony venue.
  • Ensure the bridesmaids, flower girls and ring bearers and page boys are well presented, wearing their buttonholes and ready for the occasion.
  • Assemble the bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers and page boys, quietly reminding them of their duties, and ensuring each of their tasks are undertaken.

Ceremony

  • Help the Bride out of the wedding car, and make any adjustments required to her wedding attire, hair and make-up to ensure she looks a million dollars.
  • Assemble all the attendants involved in the procession in the order in which they will all enter the church, and proceed to direct the procession entry.
  • Take up position as head bridesmaid ready to lift the Bride’s veil, and receive the Bride’s bouquet and gloves on her arrival.
  • Accompany the Best Man to the vestry for the signing of the register. And if required, sign the register as witness to the marriage.
  • Escort the Best Man who traditionally should be on your right arm during the recessional, following the Bride and Groom, Brides Father and Grooms Mother, and the Bride’s Mother and Grooms Father.

After the ceremony

  • Help the Bride look picture perfect for the photography session.
  • Leave for the reception venue immediately after the Bride and Groom.

Reception

  • The Bride may wish you to be in line to greet guests, and like the Best Man accept guests wedding presents and cards, or advise them where they should be placed.
  • You may wish to make a toast to the Bride and Groom, or do a short speech - This is optional.
  • Traditionally mid-way through the Bride and Groom’s first dance, you join them on the floor to dance with the Best Man.
  • Invite guests to sign the wedding guest book.
  • Along with the Best Man, trim the Bride and Groom’s car with ‘Just Married’ paraphernalia.
  • Help clean the venue.

Throughout the day

  • Work in harmony with the Best Man to allow the Bride and Groom to be free to enjoy the day by keeping your eyes and ears open to deal with any problems that may arise.
  • Using tact and diplomacy, delegate others to deal with unexpected tasks that may arise during the day.
  • To mediate delicate situations that may arise.
  • Keep calm and do everything necessary to help the Bride and Groom have a day to remember for all the right reasons.
  • Circulate among the guests ensuring they are having a good time, and answer any questions they may have.

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Best Man

Stag Party

  • Help to organise the stag evening / weekend.

Pre wedding Day

  • Help the Groom with his speech, or at least listen to the Grooms speech giving honest appraisal.

Pre wedding ceremony

  • Keep sober on the wedding day, a lot depends on you.
  • Have a Fully charged mobile phone to keep track of all events via the wedding day to-do section of our wedding planner.
  • Carry cash to pay for any services such as the photographer etc that need to be settled on the day.
  • Help the Groom prepare for the ceremony.
  • With the aid of the wedding day to-do feature of our wedding planner LINK + IMAGE, you keep the Groom informed of all tasks going to plan, or of any issues that he needs to be aware of ONLY IF neither you or the chief bridesmaid are unable to deal with the problems.
  • Carry and ensure the safety of both wedding rings.
  • Ensure a large umbrella is available to shelter the Groom from sudden rainfalls throughout the day.
  • Get the Groom to the church / registry office at least half an hour before the due start time in order to greet guests on their arrival.
  • Assemble the Ushers to ensure they are well presented, wearing their buttonholes and ready for the occasion.
  • Guide the Ushers, quietly reminding them of their duties, and ensuring each of their tasks are undertaken.

Ceremony

  • Sit with the Groom at the front row of the church to wait for the arrival of the Bride.
  • Hand the rings to the ceremony officiant when required during the formal service.
  • Accompany the Chief Bridesmaid to the vestry for the signing of the register. And if required, sign the register as witness to the marriage.
  • Escort the chief bridesmaid who traditionally should be on your left arm during the recessional, following the Bride and Groom, Brides Father and Grooms Mother, and the Bride’s Mother and Grooms Father.

After the ceremony

  • Work with the photographer to direct the guests for the wedding photography session.
  • Ensure all guests have transport to the reception venue.
  • Leave the ceremony with the bridesmaids shortly after the Bride and Grooms departure, so that you are at the reception ready and waiting for the guest’s arrival.

Reception

  • Accept guests wedding presents and cards, or advise them where they should be placed.
  • If a toastmaster is not hired, you should take over this role.
  • Following the Grooms speech, present a light hearted, humorous Best Mans speech to entertain the guests.
  • Traditionally mid-way through the Bride and Groom’s first dance, you join them on the floor to dance with the chief bridesmaid.
  • Along with the Bridesmaid, trim the Bride and Groom’s car with ‘Just Married’ paraphernalia.
  • Ensure all guests have transport or travel arrangements back to their evening accommodation.
  • Help clean the venue.

Throughout the day

  • Work in harmony with the Chief Bridesmaid to allow the Bride and Groom to be free to enjoy the day by keeping your eyes and ears open to deal with any problems that may arise.
  • Using tact and diplomacy, delegate others to deal with unexpected tasks that may arise during the day.
  • To mediate delicate situations that may arise.
  • Keep calm and do everything necessary to help the Bride and Groom have a day to remember for all the right reasons.
  • Circulate among the guests ensuring they are having a good time, and answer any questions they may have.

No pressure then?

 

Bridesmaids

Hen party

  • Join in the fun

Pre wedding day

  • Assist the chief bridesmaid with her duties if / when requested by the Bride and /or the chief bridesmaid.

Pre wedding ceremony

  • Assist the ‘Chief Bridesmaid’ with her duties if / when requested by the ‘Cheif Bridesmaid’ and /or the Bride.

Ceremony

  • Be part of the ceremony processional and recessional.

After the ceremony

  • Assist the chief bridesmaid with her duties if / when requested by the Bride and /or the chief bridesmaid.

Reception

  • Be supportive throughout the day.
  • Keep calm and do everything necessary to help the Bride and Groom have a day to remember for all the right reasons.

 

Ushers

Stag party

  • Join in the fun.

Pre wedding day

  • Assist the ‘Best Man’ with his duties if / when requested by the ‘Best Man’ and /or the Groom.

Pre wedding ceremony

  • Distribute buttonholes, order of service sheets and hymn books.

Direct the guests to their seats.

  • Escort both sets of Grand Parents to their seat - traditionally escorted by the grandson of each Grand Parent if they are ushers.
  • Escort the Groom’s Mother and Bride’s Mother to their seats – traditionally escorted by the son of each parent if they are ushers.

Ceremony

  • Be part of the ceremony processional and recessional with guidance from the chief bridesmaid.

After the ceremony

  • Assist in directing guests to the photography area.
  • Answer, or find answers to any questions guests may have.

Reception

  • Be supportive of the Best Man throughout the day.
  • Keep calm and do everything necessary to help the Bride and Groom have a day to remember for all the right reasons.

 

Flower Girls

  • Be on their best behaviour and follow instructions from the ‘Best Man’ and chief bridesmaid.
  • Be part of the ceremony procession and recessional with guidance from the chief bridesmaid.

 

Page Boys

  • Be on their best behaviour and follow instructions from the ‘Best Man’ and chief bridesmaid.
  • Be part of the ceremony procession and recessional with guidance from the chief bridesmaid.

 

Ring Bearer

  • The best man carries the rings; those carried by the ring bearer are fake symbolic rings loosely sown on to a pillow.
  • Be on their best behaviour and follow instructions from the ‘Best Man’ and chief bridesmaid.
  • Be part of the ceremony procession and recessional with guidance from the chief bridesmaid.

Now you know the duties required from each of the attendants, you should carefully consider who you trust to fill these roles, and most importantly think about the costs concerned.

Also, remember the more bridesmaids and ushers etc. you have, the more co-ordination is required to get them all together for fittings, meetings and ceremony rehearsals. And of course the cost implication.

Next we'll ask questions you need to ask yourself, and anticipate possible solutions to the pitfalls you may encounter.

BFF’s – Wedding Attendants Responsibilities was last modified: April 14th, 2016 by Gabriella

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